“It’s been two years since I lost my mom and sadly I still have her ashes in the horrible plastic container I received from the funeral home. I was desperate to get rid of the guilt I was feeling for not having her in a beautiful urn, but I hadn’t found anything I liked.”
“Now I’m so relieved that I’ll always have my mom close to me and no one will ever know that my beautiful vase contains her ashes. I am so happy with my new urn. It suits my home with its lovely modern look.”
“When the funeral home called to tell me that my wife’s ashes were ready to come home, I was overcome with more sadness. My grief was already so deep, but suddenly I felt even more devastated.”
“It was at that moment that I realized I had to accept it was final. My wife wasn’t just away on a vacation. It suddenly hit me with the proof being I had to receive her remains and I couldn’t help feeling worried about what was I going to do with them. I wish I’d been more prepared”
I knew the funeral home would call, but still, the raw reality of receiving their phone call, and being handed a box with her ashes touched a loss deeper than I had ever expected. The urn her ashes are in now
Yes, nothing is stating that once you have put ashes into a cremation urn they have to stay there forever.
Don’t feel worried about this - changing cremation urns is a relatively easy process.
Handling the cremated remains of your loved one can trigger unexpected emotions so we suggest asking a supportive friend or relative to assist you.
Why not play some of their favorite music in the background?
Don’t worry, there are only four easy steps to transfer ashes into your new urn.
Step 1. You will need a clean and clear surface, your current cremation receptacle, a new cremation urn, and a funnel if the opening on either of the urns is small. We also recommend a large piece of paper under the area you are working on.
Step 2. Open the new urn for ashes and position it so it is stable and the opening for the cremains is easily accessible.
Step 3. Open your current urn or temporary container. This is normally done by either a plug or stop in the base of the funeral urn, a screw-on lid, or small screws on the base of a wooden urn.
Step 4. If the cremated remains are still inside a plastic bag, you may be able to open the current ash urn, lift out the plastic bag and place it inside the new cremation urn.
If the cremation ashes are loose inside the current cremation urn, open the new urn and position it so the opening is easily accessible. Insert the funnel and carefully pour the ashes from your old funeral urn into your new cremation urn.
If any ashes have spilled, carefully fold the paper in half and use it to pour these carefully into the cremation urn.
Seal the new Memorial Vase Urn and then it’s ready to be displayed and cherished.
If you feel attached to your current funeral urn and want to keep it, you could use it to store keepsakes or mementos of your loved one.
Alternatively, you could donate your old cinerary urn to charity. Search online for charities near you that accept cremation urns.
The Memorial Vase Urn is a large adult cremation urn that can treasure the full ashes of adults up to 240lb.
A general guide is to allow for one cubic inch for every pound of weight at the time of passing with small children and infants being the only exceptions to this.
You can also ask the funeral home who can advise you on the size of the cremation urn required.
Note: A cremation urn can never be too big as long as the outside dimensions suit you, it is common for there to be unused space inside the funeral urn.
Death and loss make people uncomfortable. Seeing a cremation urn can foster similar feelings, we don’t like it. But we don’t tend to think about this when we are in the early stages of grief.
We understand grief never goes away and we will always love and miss those that left us behind. But grief does change and we develop a new way to keep moving forward.
Once you are through the initial shock, anger, or distress that can accompany the early stages of mourning - and the pressures of arranging a funeral have passed, you will be better able to make a more considered decision. And so, if your current choice of memorial is not working for you, consider how you can change this.